“If you have met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.”
Dr. Stephen Shore
All of us – are uniquely defined personalities – all of us
The quote above is pretty accurate – but the problem is a lot of people meeting for the first time someone on the spectrum – already have preconceived ideas and notions about autism. Many instantly think of the film with Tom Cruise and Dustin Hoffman – ‘Rainman’ and they then think everyone is exactly the same as Raymond Babbitt. But in truth what else is to be expected? Almost thirty years have passed since that film came out, and whilst more of society is ‘aware of autism’, not everyone is. I still meet people today who only have a vision of crying, screaming, tantrum driven mentally unstable head bangers and that is the polite version of their crass descriptions.
There is still an awful amount of stigma and blatant ignorance attached to autism today – controversial emotions and fears and phobias. It is not just autism which is seen as a taboo topic, but so too is mental health and depression – things many people simply don’t like to address head on or even think about – but present they are. As Mulder used to say ‘The truth is out there!”
I am classed as a late diagnosis with my Aspergers’, l was 44 when l received the clarification and it came like this’ You have got this far why worry about it?’ I am now 54, and have been labelled for 10 years. But have only been happy with my new self for only the last 4 – 5 years – it takes a lot of time as an elder to receive news that your growing up identity and personality was not really you, but a pretend you.
Fellow auties and Aspies will understand that last sentence – we have learned to live a different lifestyle to the one our birth path initialised for us – in order to survive ‘life’ we have become in many cases the best actors out there! Imagine, a square peg trying to fit into a round hole – that is actually us. 10 Years on, and l can finally pen the words safely and say that as an adult with Asperger’s Syndrome – l am totally happy with who l am. It takes a lot to say that and sadly not everyone can achieve that simple statement.
Classic Eggshell Moments as my brand is not specifically aimed at children with autism – it is aimed at active awareness for autism and mental health, which are some of my passions in life – but the brand addresses the older autistic market who do not often get a mention and equally as important the long suffering carers, parents, lovers and friends of those on the spectrum – because they do grand old work that is sometimes not taken into consideration. The brand is not a flippant look at autism either, although dry and cynical humour can be found, that in many ways can only be genuinely appreciated by the elders amongst us.
Thanks for reading and wishing you all a great day!
Rory Matier – The Tee Shirt Blogger
Ps: These posts are my views on my autism/Asperger’s , they may not be everyone else’s who is on the spectrum.